I don't remember where in the Bible, but it does in fact say that when you don't understand something you aren't held accountable. But when you do understand and comprehend something then you become responsible. This to me means that innocent children must be forgiven for their mistakes but when they are taught that something they have done is immoral, then they become responsible and have the burden of doing right. This is why after learning about the fall of man in Genesis 1-11, should read Psalms and the New Testament to learn about Jesus the perfect sacrifice and savior. Also that God desires mercy not sacrifice. We don't have to sacrifice our lives, no suicide, no sacrificing children, animals, or other valuables. Instead give freely to others that you would have them give to you. Wash your brother, sister, and mother's feet. Help with chores, and when you go to serve God in another land, heal people in Jesus Christ's name.

In order to go to heaven, you must love the Lord your God more than you love your parents. In other words to me this means obey God above your parents. When one of God's commandments outranks what your parents tell you to do, do what the commandment says to do. Seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness. Don't hit your parents regardless of what they tell you. Jesus said don't hit your mother or father.